What are the signs you will give when an ex girlfriend still has feelings for you?

What signs are green lights telling you to keep going? What are false positives that tell you to stop? Understanding the difference could spell success or disaster when it comes to fixing an unwanted breakup.

There are a LOT of signs a girl can give when she still loves you.

Some are easy to spot. Others are much more subtle. But not only is it enough to recognize them, you also have to know what each of these signs means. Knowing those answers can mean the difference between getting back together or pushing you and your ex girlfriend further apart.

The biggest signs given off by an ex-girlfriend

Timing is everything. By working to get back together, you cannot take any unwanted actions. You need to know what to do, and more importantly, when to do it. You also need to know when it’s time to back off and leave her alone, so your ex can start missing you again.

In the meantime, you can recognize the following signs that, at the very least, your ex is still thinking about you:

She is still your friend on Facebook

It’s not unusual these days to stop being friends after a breakup. So when is an ex still your friend? It’s because he wants to keep track of what you’re doing.

This is a pretty obvious sign that she’s not 100% ready to let go yet. Also, sometimes an ex will unfriend you but will still be friends with some of your friends or family. This way, she can still stalk some of the things you’re doing vicariously.

Your ex still talks to your friends

A more obvious plot. Unless you shared these friends before you started dating, there’s really no reason for your ex girlfriend to stay in touch with HER friends.

Now sometimes she will try to justify this. “I made these friends through you…I’m not going to throw them away.” That’s a pathetic argument, and she probably knows it. After all, you won’t be keeping in touch with her friends (or will you?)

She still talks about the breakup

An ex who wants the breakup to be permanent will avoid talking about it, especially if she knows you still have feelings for her. So what if she keeps bringing up the breakup when she talks to you? It’s probably because she’s tempting you.

Breaking up was a big step. Before even thinking about getting back together, she has to make sure that you want the same thing. She might bring up how stupid the breakup was or how often you fought, or she might even take some responsibility and say “yeah, it was basically my fault.” These are all good signs that she still has feelings for you. Be on the lookout for things like this.

Your ex asks about your family

Did you go on a date for a while? If so, your girlfriend probably got involved in your family (and you in hers). So if he asks you how is your mother, your sister or whoever she is? She could be innocent. It could be that your ex is just curious.

That said, it could also be a sign: she’s using your family as a level to gently force her way back into your life.

The key here is frequency. How often does he ask you about your family life? If it’s a lot, it’s because she still cares what your family thinks of her. And if she still cares about that, your ex still sees a potential future with youand you want to keep those doors open.

Your ex keeps showing up in the places you frequent

You have to be careful here, because you don’t want to read anything. It’s easy to want her so much that you’re willing to take almost anything as a sign that she wants you back.

Likewise, if your ex girlfriend keeps showing up at places she knows you’ll be? She could be making a statement. Especially if she looks exceptionally good, like she’s trying to make you jealous.

In a scenario like this, you have to play it cool. Talk to her if she approaches you, but don’t try too hard to make contact. You can’t completely ignore her either, or you’ll come off as a forlorn coward. A firm, confident nod (and the slightest hint of a smile) will go a long way toward acknowledging her without letting go of her hand.

Your ex girlfriend calls you drunk

Another big one. An ex who calls you because she is drunk is contacting you at the time when she is most vulnerable. It is also likely that she will hear the truth about how she feels if she takes this phone call.

Alcohol is the great equalizer. Whatever feelings and emotional connections your girlfriend has buried come to the surface when she’s intoxicated. She buried those things to stay strong; otherwise, she might be tempted to get back together with you. But being drunk? She is letting her true feelings be known.

Don’t talk too much here: let her talk. She pays close attention to the things she says, because there are likely to be several clues as to how much she still loves you. These will be things that she can use later, during the reconnection phase of getting back together.