Text messages, phone calls, social media… your ex was a big part of your everyday life. But now that it’s suddenly gone? You miss him and love him more than ever.

If you’re trying to win an ex back, nothing is more frustrating than a lack of contact. You may be thinking, “How can I make him love me again if my ex won’t even talk to me? What’s my next step?”

Losing someone you love is always hard. Losing constant contact, even more. This is one of the hardest parts of the breakup. Knowing that, if you can’t get him back, all this daily contact that you came to love so much will just disappear.

But what if he doesn’t even TALK to you? How are you supposed to get it back?

Why doesn’t my ex call me?

First, let’s examine why your ex won’t talk to you after the breakup. He has nothing to do with me hating you. He has everything to do with the feelings he used to have for you.

See, the emotional bonds that form during the beginning of your relationship are strong. The more time you spend with your ex, the stronger these ties become. The more fun you’ve had with your boyfriend, the closer these connections will be.

“There will always be a special place in my heart for you…”

Have you ever heard that phrase? That is the basis for falling in love. When two people share a connection, heart to heart, they leave footprints in each other’s lives. You most likely did this with your ex boyfriend. And the chances are even better than he knows.

Your boyfriend is pushing you away for one reason only: to ignore these connections. When your ex doesn’t talk to you, he doesn’t call you, or he doesn’t respond to your text messages, it’s all because he is trying to continue the breakup by hiding the existing feelings from him.

Left alone, over time? Those feelings will go away. But there is a limited window of opportunity, right after the breakup, when you can use those same feelings against him.

The best ways to get your ex to contact you

Now, the fact that your ex boyfriend seems to ignore you isn’t all a bad thing. This is actually a necessary part of getting it back. Reconciliation cannot happen until two things happen:

• 1) your ex-boyfriend I miss you.
• two) Your ex sees you differently than he sees you now.

The missing you part is easy… but it’s hard at the same time. Because the first thing you should do after breaking up? It’s leaving ALL CONTACT with your ex boyfriend.

Contactless means TOTALLY contactless! You can’t email him, call him, text him, or even “Like” him on Facebook posts. You can’t comment on their Instagram photos. You can’t ask his friends about him.

Basically, you need to cut your ex out of your life, the same way he is cutting you out. He needs to turn around and check on you… and he sees absolutely NOTHING.

Understand something: you never miss someone until they are gone. Your ex can’t begin to miss you if he gets constant updates on how you’re doing, through her friends, your friends, social media, or whatever.

Now I know that “no contact” will be difficult. It’s actually the hardest thing to do. You will think that by not talking to him, you are actually distancing yourself from your boyfriend. You will feel like he is running away or he will forget about you.

However, in reality, you are putting yourself in the best possible position for a future reconciliation. Because after a certain time, it will use one or more reconnection techniques to get back in touch.

Make your ex see you as a girlfriend again

Right now your ex boyfriend doesn’t see you as girlfriend material. That’s why he broke up with you. Even if he is thinking of seeing someone else, or there were other factors, there was a time when he loved you more than anyone or anything.

Getting back together is about bring him back to that time.

Every feeling your ex ever had for you is like a direct rope that leads you back to his heart. There are methods and techniques to play those chords, very softly, so that they resonate in your boyfriend’s heart as fond memories of the past.

Their past history together is a great asset. But you have to use that advantage in very subtle ways, or your boyfriend will figure out what you’re trying to do. Once he sees that, all bets are off. Getting him back will be hard once he knows what you’re doing.

At the same time, if you can achieve it? You will change their mindset. Your ex will start thinking about you again, and in a good way. Best of all, when are you ready to reconcile? He will think that getting back together was its idea.

This ideology is crucial to staying together. The last thing you want is for your ex to accept you out of pity or pity. That relationship won’t last a week. But when HE thinks he’s really losing something by losing you? He will work hard to make the new relationship work.