We’ve all grown up thinking that dating is normal and something people do to meet others for the chance to get married. Today’s Christian culture promotes dating, but this was not always the case. “Dating” is not biblical, and in fact, the Scriptures clearly reveal the opposite of the attitude of dating when meeting people for relationships and possible marriage. Let’s take a look at why dating is not for the sincere Christian.

1) Dating leads to sex but not commitment

More often than not, dating leads to sex and then eventual heartbreak. Dating hurts young people because it’s a false sense of hope that almost always leads to emotional distress and physical impurity. with appointments the risk to have sexual intercourse with a person who In fact I don’t know, it’s essential. I say risk because sex means nothing without love and commitment. Think about it. For sincere Christians, dating should be out of the question, don’t you think?

2) Dating deceives (fornication) the other’s body

For the Christian every time he has sex with a new person he is being defrauded and you are also defrauding the other person. God’s desire for sincere Christians is not to have sexual relations (fornication) before marriage. It is a sin just as adultery is a sin. Scripture clearly and clearly says that young Christians are not to let each other down sexually or emotionally; they must be different from Gentiles who do not know God.

1 Thessalonians 4:3-7 “For this is the will of God, your sanctification (set apart), that you refrain from fornication. That each one of you know how to possess his vessel (body) in sanctification and honor, not in the desire of the concupiscence, like the Gentiles who do not know God, let no one overstep (awaken sexual desire in another) and defraud his brother in anything, for the Lord is the avenger of such, as we have also told you and tried “.

3) Dating Mistakes: “Feelings of Attraction and Desire” for Love

How many times have you wanted someone so much that you thought you were “in love” with them. Were you so emotionally attached to them with your feelings that you thought they were “the one” for you? This happens all the time with Christians. They get married and think they will live happily ever after. But wait! What happens when the feelings of desire and lust disappear, what then? I’ll tell you what. Couples are unhappy in their marriage and commit infidelities of all kinds. Their entire marriage was based on FEELINGS rather than LOVE. This is not God’s will for the sincere Christian.

4) Dating skips the friendship/respect stage of a relationship

The Knight in Shining Armor prances through the door. The beautiful princess is the most stunning beauty you have ever seen. What happens next based on these ga-ga feelings? Couples give their hearts, their minds, their souls, and their bodies to each other based on sexual feelings. They defraud each other by stealing emotions and bodies that do not belong to them.

Sex means nothing without love and commitment.. How well do couples really know the person they are becoming intimate with? God’s plan for single Christians is to love one another as brothers and sisters in the Lord and to build friendships based on respect, not sex. Your body and your mind belong to God. Sex is reserved for the marriage bed. The sexual, intimate, and emotional bond of two people in the Lord is the “one flesh” of marriage.

“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins that man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Don’t you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not yours; you were bought with a price (the death of Christ). So honor God with your body.” (1 Corinthians 618)

5) Dating isolates you from others

Once the emotional bonding begins, neither party cares about anyone else. Throughout the day, when they are away from each other, they just want to be together and are clouded over thoughts and imaginations of what the other is doing. As for the people who really matter in their lives, like parents, relatives, and real friends, everyone is put on hold as the couple anxiously awaits when they will meet again sexually and emotionally.

6) Dating distracts people from what really matters

Dating, because of its sexual and emotional intentions, distracts Christians from what is In fact important to them. That is, God and the preparation of his future in the Lord. They are so focused on each other’s events that nothing else matters to them, not even staying pure for God and marriage. It is God’s will that young Christians who are sincere in the Lord put their feelings on hold and do not allow themselves to be pressured into affective relationships without commitment.

7) Dates Deceive Each Other By Not Seeing True Character

This is exactly what happened to the Biblical Samson. He couldn’t see through his own passionate lust to see that Delilah was only using him. In the end, his lustful desires cost her her life. Delilah’s true character was to be a deceitful woman who only cared about herself. You can read the full story here: Judges 16:4-31

“Do not covet her beauty in your heart, nor be captivated by her eyes, for the harlot reduces you to bread, and the adulteress takes advantage of your life” Proverbs 6:25

It works the other way around. Christian girls can also be disappointed by men who say they believe in Jesus Christ. Don’t let your passions and desires fool you and don’t see someone’s true character. Be patient and ask God to help you recognize someone’s true character. Eventually and over time, the fruit of the Spirit will be evident. Be patient with your emotions and wait on God!

8) Dating prepares Christians for divorce

Why society has this notion that dating prepares people for marriage, I have no idea. But somehow through the ages people believe that “dating” is the way to meet someone and in some cases advocate having sex before marriage to see if couples are compatible that way. This is absurd! God made them male and female, right?

I will tell you what has been revealed to me through the Scriptures. Dating prepares people to trust their emotions. When passions and desires die down, couples simply divorce and find a new partner.

“They told you: ‘In the end times (today’s culture) there will be scoffers who will follow their own wicked desires.’ These are the men who divide you, who follow the natural instincts of the mother and do not have the Spirit.

9) Dating leads Christians away from what is right and pure in the Lord

Now do you understand why God forbids fornication? When our emotions are so caught up in worldly pleasures, like dating, God is no longer important to us and we begin to rebel and mock Him and His commandments for our lives. God wants young people to place Him as the most important aspect of his life so that they can base their actions in life from that relationship.

“Flee from the evil desires of youth, and follow justice, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart. (2 Timothy 2:22)