Wedding vows

Will you love her, comfort her, honor and protect her and, abandoning all others, will you be faithful to her as long as they both live? “The groom responds” I will. “The minister says to the bride: love him, comfort him, honor him and protect him, and, abandoning all others, be faithful to him as long as they both live?” The bride responds “I will.”

In my opinion, these are three reasons why married men cheat: ignorance, selfishness and lack of self-discipline.

1. Ignorance

Some people do not know themselves, how they are connected and what can easily tempt them, so they cannot avoid such situations and fall like a deck of cards. Some believe that they are so spiritual that they cannot be tempted.

The truth is that everyone is tempted. Just because you are married does not mean that you will not find anyone more beautiful or handsome than your spouse. You have to be prepared to deal with those situations when they occur and fulfill your wedding vows. Some ignore the fact that marriage is “hard work.” You have to work at it, it is an investment! Just like a businessman would take care of his investments, you must dedicate time, money, and resources to spice up your marriage and keep love alive. If not, you will get bored and start looking for excitement outside of marriage.

Some do not know that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Totally different in the way they are connected. The man needs to study the woman and also the woman. Understand the different languages ​​of love, the emotional variations especially ‘during the time of the month’, the ego of man and the need for respect.

The first 2 years of marriage are usually the teething period when water is tested. Let’s see your true self, dating and dating are often not reality, welcome to the real world. No two human beings are compatible, even identical twins are not. The excuse that you are incompatible and therefore the need to go out is a fallacy. It is immaturity and a refusal to commit to the relationship that makes people adhere to the incompatibility theory.

Marriage requires giving and receiving, love, respect, effective communication, and the guts to weather the storm when it comes. If you think you fall in love and get married and expect a bed of roses, a great surprise and an early departure awaits you.

Marriage is sweet, but you must know how to live it well. Roses have thorns, but don’t forget that thorns have roses too.

2. Selfishness and greed in sex and money.

The man just wants to unload without realizing that the woman also requires her need to be met, even if she takes the time to get there. Selfishness on the part of the man implies that the wife is never satisfied and is left so exposed to temptations that the closest man seems a likely candidate. The same applies to the wife when she is not in the mood, but the man is loaded and ready to shoot. You leave him open to temptation.

A wise woman would probably marry a man with potential and vision, a man who can care for the family as a total commitment to family life. This is not the same as marrying a man with only dreams and sweet words. The silly woman would definitely run after the next sweet rich boy talker when she finds out that her man can’t take care of her.

3. Lack of self-discipline

Some people cannot control themselves. The site of a nipple or anything in skirts sends thousands of volts to the brain and you lose your common sense. Those people always say it’s the devil. Tell me how the devil unzipped your pants and took off your clothes and the girl’s. Some girls also cannot live without infection; even the brutal act of circumcision cannot save them.

Self-discipline requires a conscious and determined effort to do the right thing and do it well even when no one is looking at you. It is very important that one remains chaste and pure for marriage. If while single you were moving from Peter to Paul or you were one of those guys who say kindness and mercy will follow me, you will find it very difficult to stay with a woman for life.

Self-discipline begins from your youth. No premarital sex, no nonsense, stay pure. Do not accept the lie that you must take a test drive to ensure you are sexually compatible before you get married. Again, no two humans are sexually compatible. They must learn the skills, positions, and techniques to get to cloud 9 each time they get there in marriage.

If you invest in keeping your love life warm in your marriage, you will always be interested in your spouse, whether he is a size 6 or 40, whether he has peanuts or a stick. Size sometimes doesn’t matter at all times. If you’re that worried, there are ways and things you can research or buy to spice things up. True love, wisdom, honesty, and faithfulness will always prevail.

There are faithful men and women in marriage, those who made their wedding vows and never looked back. A handful may be unhappy in their marriage, but there are those who are happy and express the joy of their marriage. You may possess all the right characteristics to remain faithful in marriage, the strength, the will, and the determination to remain faithful come from within, and the awe of almighty God.