Why an affair won’t last, even if it seems like it is or has lasted longer than expected

“Stolen water is refreshing; food eaten in secret tastes better.” Proverbs 9:17. This statement from the Bible is so profound and sounds so true to the way of life around the world, that no matter what “religion” or beliefs you express, we can all agree with this statement instead of the topic of “issues”. .

Maybe you have never taken anything (stole) something that belonged to someone else. Maybe you have never dreamed of being with someone other than yourself (spouse). However, there may have been a time or maybe this is the time when you have found yourself right in the middle of an issue that you once orchestrated, encouraged or attempted and got stuck (no pun intended).

Let’s take a look at this list of: WHY’S, WHY NOT’S, HOW NOT’S, and HOW’S in matters of adventure.

Why do we have adventures? Why shouldn’t we have an affair(s)? How Not to Have an Affair and How to Stop Having an Affair(s).

First, why do we have adventures?

Simple answer: we want. Adventures don’t just happen, they’re usually well thought out, whether we admit it or not.

Second, why shouldn’t we have an affair?

Other simple answer(s): It’s wrong, wrong, wrong #1. #2 It damages the very core of the person’s heart and soul (and yours). No matter how you try to convince yourself that you are not subject to pain or matters of the heart; you are only fooling yourself. At best, affairs are nothing more than dirty little “common” acts of usury and greed. An affair takes, takes, takes, takes and takes…until the giver is left exhausted, dissatisfied and dazed.

Third, How Not to Have an Affair: Remember how you meet the people you’re still with (but now cheating on)… I don’t want to believe that you started telling yourself or your partner that “I’m going to cheat on you the first chance I get.” have”; unless of course this is your character. And if this is the case, he too may drop to his hands and knees and start barking. (no offense)

But if that’s not who you really are and you find yourself “disinterested” in the person (wife, husband) you’re with and have been with for at least the last ten, twenty or more years…and you’re becomes a little fidgety and starts looking at your wife/husband with disdain, may I humbly suggest that there is nothing bad with the person you married (especially) if you’ve lasted that long… IT’S YOU!

He is not satisfied with you, and maybe he has tried to hold on to an image that has faded with time, and he just realized that time has passed, so now he wants to start again with “fresh meat (hahaha )” . Note that even the grass on the other side will also wither; and who you’re with is tried, tried and true. what you see is what you havewhat you have had, and if you play your cards right, you’ll end up with a royal flush or four aces each time. You are invested.

Simple Answer to How Not to Have an Affair: Think Outside (the Pants)… Starting over is expensive… on EVERY LEVEL, and usually not worth the time, pain, embarrassment, or money , though everyone can get over it at some stage in life. But why leave so much carnage behind when you can simply be honest with yourself and yourself from the beginning of the relationship…before the commitment? Well, um, mmm.

Fourth, How to stop having an affair: The reverse of how you started it. Stop creeping and sneaking around. Call, text, sextee, FB, Tweet, etc, etc, less and less, and start being HONEST (here’s a novel idea…um…stay home sometimes.

Oh what? Honest, who can you ask? YOURSELF to begin with. Admit that you have unresolved internal issues. Problems that take place on the stage (the life) of everyone else and that, in the best of cases, end in a tragedy or a comedy. He has acted for so long that he begins to believe his own exaggeration and agrees that what is wrong is right. This is uncontrolled behavior that blinds and deceives you, highlights the daffodil you are or have become, you get the picture.

Get over yourself (man/woman), and get “with yourself”. There is no satisfaction for the meat…it is like the Seymores plant…the more you give it; the more you want… FEEEEED MEEEEEE!!!

A word of comfort and challenge to the “Single People”:

if you are not married and you’re having an affair or have had an affair with someone other than the person you’re “dating”…it’s not an affair you’re having…it’s just another affair.

However painful and terrible a thought and an act, this can be; the truth of the matter is that you or the person you are ‘dating’ has Without obligation be faithful both are free moral agentsand have the freedom to date whoever you want and want at any time.

Sure you can say we’re going to “exclusively just see each other”. And you certainly mean it the moment you make that statement. But the reality is that there is always that sinking, empty feeling that one day someone may show up and become the next one. So, in conclusion, I heard someone say, “Why buy the cow when you can get free milk?”

Disclaimer: I am not calling anyone a dog, cow, or any other animal. Just be careful how you present yourself.

This is information, perception and observation is not based on old-fashioned puritanical self-righteous ideas; but real life, with real people, who have and are being really scarred for life due to humanity’s selfish, selfish, pompous, greedy thoughts and ways.



Affairs “seem to be fine” on set; but in the end it is exactly what a messy mess “looks like”.

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