Of all the strategies that wives ask me about trying to lure their husbands home, making him miss you so much that he can’t wait to get back is the most common. Wives are often unsure how to do it without looking too desperate or obvious. I heard a wife say, “My husband left about three weeks ago. He said he was just not happy and needed time to assess how he wanted to proceed with our marriage. Needless to say, it broke my heart, but not Regardless. what I did or said, indicated that he was leaving anyway and that there was no way to change his mind. We spoke with some regularity. He communicates with me, but does not give me any clue as to what he is. thinking. And he never mentions going back to Frankly, this is the most important thing to me. I want him home, where he belongs. I also try to hint to see if he tells me that he misses me and wants to come home. But he never does. How does he make me miss me more than him? How do I make him miss me enough that he wants to come home. “

I had a very strong and definite opinion on this because I was in this exact situation and I felt very strongly that if I could make my estranged husband miss me and long for me enough, I would finally come home. But I found out through my own experience that the more I tried, the more he resisted. I finally managed to get him to miss me a bit, but it wasn’t until I almost gave up on my obvious plan that things changed. In my experience, if you actively try to make him miss you, you will often achieve just the opposite. But taking a very unconventional approach often works much better. I will explain more below.

Often times, if it’s obvious that you’re trying to make him miss you, he will be less likely to: Many wives will do their best to appear attractive to their husband. Some will even try to make you jealous or hint that other men are trying to chase them. Other wives will try to provoke guilt or make all kinds of promises about the positive things to expect if you return home. The common denominator among all these potentially failed plans is that the husband is very likely to know that he is being manipulated. As such, he will be tempted to doubt the validity of what you are trying to present to him. And these doubts can keep him from missing you so much because he is confused as to what is real and what is not.

I know this can be very frustrating. And it can leave you wondering if you’re not supposed to actively try to get him to miss you, where does that leave you? I will cover that topic now.

The best alternative. How to make him miss you without making your plan obvious: If you lean on him to see what he is missing or constantly ask him how he feels about you, then you are only ensuring his endurance. These questions make him feel uncomfortable, so he may think that it is best for him to avoid it. And even though you know you shouldn’t try so hard, you are often not sure what to do as an alliterate. Well, in my experience, once you stop trying so hard, you will gain some ground. Oddly enough, once you start living your life without the sense of despair or panic that comes with concentrating on taking it home, you will often realize this and eventually it may miss you more than it could have. if i miss you your only focus.

I understand that this might not be what you want to hear. But I’d rather tell you something that really helps you get it back home than something that sounds good but is essentially ineffective. I had literally almost given up on my husband once he suddenly started to realize it. And frankly, he started to realize (and miss me) because I suddenly backed off. He couldn’t help but notice that suddenly he was no longer constantly calling me or asking about his feelings or wondering out loud how much he missed me. I will openly admit that this was not my intention at first. It was not a conscious or calculated plan. I got so tired of not getting the results I wanted that I took a break. And this is what made the difference. Once I took that break, the silence made him question what he was doing. And that’s when he started to miss me. If I had known that the end result would have been so easy, I would not have wasted all the time I did.

So to answer the question posed, my experience is that the best way to get him to miss you and want to come home is not to try so hard and obviously to achieve it. Instead, live yourself. Be open to your spouse. Be positive and friendly. But don’t make your only purpose in life to be to miss you or to come home. Instead, make it clear that while you will be there when he makes a decision, you no longer plan to put things on hold while you wait. I know this may seem counterintuitive, but the success rate of this plan is much higher than that of the more obvious plans.