It is important to understand the psychology of older men before deciding to flirt with them. What makes one irresistible to older men can be very simple, and it’s usually the things we take for granted or never pay attention to. Things like recognition, respect, dependency, and the dynamics of dating, as well as old love itself, can put one at the top of the ladder when it comes to attractiveness.

Recognize your achievements and position:

Who doesn’t want to be recognized and praised for their life achievements? It is often said that men and their egos are never separated, this is more for older men who have the most to show for how many years they have been around. Take the time to acknowledge and praise lifelong accomplishments. It doesn’t matter if the man is in his 40s, 50s or 60s, they all need a little ego patting and the more you can identify those things the better. Men are said to behave like little children to their partner / spouse and worse still as they get older. Therefore, a compliment can never be too much.

Respect it:

The Bible commands women to respect their husbands. This must have been an old formula for successful relationships because men crave respect. Whether they deserve it most of the time is another story. But older men really shine when they are shown respect, more so in African culture. Older men like to be called by their totems, for example “Gushungo” which means crocodile totem or “Shumba” which is Lion. I think they associate their power and wisdom with that of the animal. While it may be a pointless exercise targeting younger men for their totem, it can actually be a deposit for better rewards if done with a tactic for older men. Accompanying the totem must be a small childish voice and the boy simply melts and finds such a woman irresistible. I also believe that in other cultures, different ways of showing respect can be applied, for example speaking frankly, not contemptuously, to a man or exercising the ability to listen can also show that respect. Any show of respect wins the older man.

Dependence and vulnerability:

Although at once it is said that men like independent women; this is more of a criterion aimed at younger men. On the other hand, older men like to take care of their women. In my culture, again, it is a cliché that “older men are good providers.” If a woman has reached a certain age without finding a husband her age, she is usually encouraged to associate with older men. Regardless of the age of the woman, getting someone to be at least 5 years older may be enough. Men like responsibility and feel more powerful if they can keep women in their lives. Older men are more generous, perhaps because they have accomplished more in life and are not burdened with immediate financial obligations. Here I am talking about men approaching or exceeding retirement age. They find it attractive to have responsibility for their partner. Just looking at the ads on dating sites reveals that most of the time older men are looking for younger women to spoil. However, this dependency has to be accompanied by the recognition and respect mentioned above. A woman is irresistible if she can be vulnerable and dependent on her man, of course, to a reasonable degree.

Older men like to continue the relationship …

In this age when women consider themselves on a par with men and have the right to maintain the relationships they like; it can be a disadvantage if an older man is involved. Perhaps this could come down to the value system and the amount of experience the older man possesses. I have observed that most of the time, older men like to be in charge and pursue the relationship. Therefore, it is best for the woman to flirt and stop there, never aggressively chase an older man. They find this behavior threatening and therefore stop in their tracks. It could also be due to their appreciation for good old romance and therefore they are attracted to women who allow them to be the romantic partner.

Love and intimacy

Older guys take love and intimacy seriously. A woman who can show that she appreciates and values ​​these two traits is irresistible as as they age, men also like to be pampered like little children. They like genuine love that can stand the test of time, as getting old brings challenges. Perhaps the boy is losing his hair or some other challenge that may threaten his masculinity. Therefore, having a committed partner who understands and can handle issues intimately is an attraction. Older boys are afraid of what they call “gold diggers” and want to spend their money lovelessly in return. Younger men can do it “no strings attached” as they are still experimenting too.

So if you’ve set your sights on a “sugar daddy,” make sure you can handle the above 5 points to be irresistible and connect with that older guy in the long run.